Wednesday, 29 September 2010

What's the upside to keeping everything as it is?

Last week I asked "What's the downside to getting everything you want? This week I'm asking "What's the upside to keeping everything as it is?
You can avoid organising for the future.
You can continue to procrastinate.
You can continue to blame external circumstances (government, spouse, friends)
Continued inaction.
You can get to laze around.
No need to apply yourself.
Stay within your comfort zone.
No need to meet new people.
Don't need to think too hard.
Keep same habits etc.
Have another close look at this question and pay attention to what surfaces for you. For many people, I can guarantee that lurking underneath, in unexamined thought, there are countless reasons to remain exactly as you are.
Once again it is only by bringing these thoughts to the surface and adding light to them that you can take action to move by them and initiate steps toward your bigger goals and dreams.

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Tuesday, 21 September 2010

What's the downside to getting everything you want?

It's widely known that many people are afraid of failure and will ditch many of their hopes and dreams because they fear failure and all that accompanies it. Loss of respect, loss of dignity, loss of self confidence and belief, loss of money, starting over again and on and on.
What many people fail to realise is that an incredibly large percentage of folk suffer from a fear of SUCCESS and all that it means. When I talk about this subject with Coaching Clients or in a Workshop situation, there are often gasps of disbelief and shakes of heads. It can be a challenge to prove this point but not impossible.
Everyone, at least on the surface, would say that they are more than ready to embrace success and all that it brings,but are they?
One single limiting belief about success is all it takes to derail the grandest plans. One single negative subconscious thought about succeeding is all it takes to have you continually treading the mill and repeating the same process over and over again. Only you can decide what success means in each area of your life, relationships, money, career, health etc all have your own personal perspective and as such only you can declare what you want or wish to be, do or have in each.
Here is one way to uncover the blockage and unearth some new thinking.
Ask yourself  "What is the downside to having everything the way I want it?"
Don't just gloss over this question, really think it through, then you will find one or more reasons why you may be finding it difficult to achieve your SUCCESS.
eg I'll have to work harder
My friends won't like me
He''ll think I'm being selfish
Not enough time
People will take advantage of me
I'll lose control
I need to be different and change etc
Once these thoughts are brought to the surface and you are aware of them, then it's time to eliminate them by carefully undermining them and creating new affirmitive, supportive thoughts which will enable you to move in the direction of your Goals more freely.
 
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Monday, 20 September 2010

Successfully Failing

A successful Bank President about to retire was interviewed by the media and was asked
"To what do you owe your great success?"
He thought for a moment and answered "That's easy really, it was all down to good decisions"
The interviewer proceeded and asked "What were your good decisions based on?"
The Banker pondered for a moment and said "I put it down to the wisdom gained from experience mostly"
The interviewer pressed for more and asked "Where did that expeience come from?"

The Banker replied quickly and in an instant and said "That's easy to answer. Bad decisions"

So it should be with life. Too many times we get a bad result and feel as though we've failed, our confidence takes a dent and we give up too quickly, our hopes and dreams die and we settle for second best.
We didn't learn to accept failure as a means to learning and improving, we tend to accept defeat in a venture too readily instead of using the feedback to adjust and build toward our chosen outcome.
Failure, as I see it, is a degree of success, part of the journey on a great big learning curve.

"Defeat in a venture should be regarded as a challenge, just as an obstacle should be seen as a disguised opportunity. Adversity should make us even more determined to succeed." Unknown

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Thursday, 16 September 2010

365 ways to avoid personal development © A humorous look at Mind, Body and Spirit

Avoid GOAL SETTING. University studies carried out in the 1970s by Harvard University showed that students who set goals were 97% more likely to attain them than those who did not. Once again it seems very clear that if you stick with the decision to avoid personal growth or self improvement then goal setting is taboo.
Lewis Carroll's words are to be remembered here "If you don't know where you're going any road will get you there", stick with this adage, it is a quote that should never be far from your thoughts.
Some of the greatest achievers and thinkers of our time new that goal setting could bring about change, but they had lots of spare time on their hands.
Goal Setting is a very cruel way of keeping you focused and preoccupied with something that's never going to happen. It was devised to annoy and distract us from Eastenders and X-Factor . If you wish to set goals of any kind this should be restricted to organising the minutiae of family holidays or shopping trips.
Always focus on what you don't want, do not focus on Goals, hopes, dreams or aspirations for any length of time this could lead to subconsciously drawing your goals to you and create unwanted change.
For the most part, allow all your thoughts free unchallenged reign to govern your actions and responses, this way you can carry on blindly into the undefined future.
 
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Friday, 10 September 2010

365 ways to avoid personal development © A humorous look at Mind, Body and Spirit

Stay seperate. Always identify with the false mind made self, the ego part which encourges you to judge, blame, defend and criticise. It is of great importance that you listen intently to ego driven thoughts to increase that connection and identification with the false self and further entrench your mind in incessant opinionated chatter.
This will keep you occupied for enormous portions of your day, arguing, condemning and comparing, making judgements about others based on what you perceive to be irritating or just plain wrong.
"He is driving like an idiot."
"She's a terrible Mother."
"Her manners are despicable."
"They did this to me."
You can clearly see the necessity of this preoccupation with thought, it allows you to avoid looking within at the space between thought, where the present exists as being or awareness or presence.

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Thursday, 9 September 2010

365 ways to avoid personal development © A humorous look at Mind, Body and Spirit

It is widely stated that you become what you think about all day long. Therefore as a sure fire way to avoid change and any kind of personal growth in the future, it would be wise and indeed necessary that you do not raise your awareness of current thinking patterns. Your present circumstances and environment, whether good or bad, have been brought about by previous thinking and choices and actions based on those thoughts. So it is incumbent upon you to avoid "watching" your thoughts or "listening" to them in order that you can maintain the status quo of leaving all your creativity, imagination and constructive reasoning to conditioned responses.

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Friday, 3 September 2010

365 ways to avoid personal development © A humorous look at Mind, Body and Spirit

It is said that "You become like the 5 people you spend most of your time with". This being the case, to ensure non development, growth or change of any kind, always mix with like minded individuals who have no sense of vision or passion for life. Insist on making negative types your bed mates. This way you'll have a ready made group who can say the right thing at the right time just to keep you in place in case you get dreamy ideas above your station. Remembering todays watch phrase at all times "Individual thought or imaginative creativity will set you up for a fall, be safe, just fit in".

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Thursday, 2 September 2010

365 ways to avoid personal development. A humorous look at Mind, Body and Spirit.

When sleep does not come easy at night, when you find yourself replaying the events of the past day over and over and you turn your focus to the day and week ahead, beginning to get anxious about what may or may not happen. It is essential to have laser like precision, and focus intentionally without interruption at the endless negative possibilities. You must occupy the mind wholly with thoughts of worry, negativity and fear of what the future holds.
At no point should you calm your mind and change focus bringing thoughts of positive possibilities.

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