Friday, 17 December 2010

Self Talk

Our self talk can be constructive or destructive and as we progress through our day, whether we are alone or in company, we are forming opinions, we are answering asked and unasked questions, predicting there outcome, we have imaginary conversations and arguments, we go over old situations in our minds, all self talk. According to Shad Helmstetter in his book "What to say when you talk to yourself" It is estimated by Behavioural Psychologists that as much as 77% of what we think or talk to ourselves about on a regular basis is negative. That is to say that we are criticising, condemning, complaining, ridiculing and generally bringing ourselves down with our habitual thoughts.
Of course not all programming has led to limiting beliefs; we have been told how well we've done, received congratulations and been rewarded, all be it, judged by or compared to someone else's standards and what they believed was best for us. Such encouragement has motivated us to new challenges and led us to excel at many things increasing our confidence in many areas and assisting us to attain new levels of achievement.
Most people know when something has to change in their lives but very few are aware that they have the internal power to adopt and embrace new ways of doing things, which essentially begins with new thinking. Limiting beliefs and old conditioning are at the very core of the problem. Unfortunately most people are likely to externalize their challenges and blame someone or something in their environment. Whilst this is extremely easy to do, it serves no purpose in the long term. Lack of fulfillment and feelings of being trapped bring many unwanted side effects such as anxiety and stress. Challenges have to be weighed up and put under the microscope to decide if it would be better to carry on, encumbered with a life out of kilter or if it would be worth trying something new as a shot in the dark.
Recognition of these learned limits and unhealthy practices is key to gaining clarity and accepting personal responsibility, with a view to travelling a more fulfilling path on the way to a self defined and independent future.

Hugs, Allan


  1. This is so true.....a good question is "would you beat yourself up in a street fight"? No! "Then don't bear yourself up with words". "You are your worst opponent."

  2. lifes to short to go over in your mind the mistakes you made in past but try to learn from them and hopefully not make the same mistakes again